How we met

Robert’s Perspective:

As any proper story should, I feel like the best place to start is at the beginning. When Mireille and I met, like most, it was through dumb luck. I was 28 and had a company that went bankrupt the year before and a degree in Finance. Not a great pedigree being the world was still recovering from the modern depression.robert-motorcycle The short story is I had a life long friend with a nice car and pair of loafers, I on the other hand did not possess such. When I asked what he did for a living, he mentioned he was in software. As any broke man in my predicament would do, figured this would be a good direction for my life.  He made the introduction and ended up landing the job at what would be one of the fastest growing companies in Atlanta. At the time I met Mireille, I was currently 6 weeks into role and north of 150% to my quarterly plan. This seemed like a dream job. Software sales is different than anything I had ever known. I was surrounded by brilliance every day and the product you are selling is constantly changing and evolving, literally.  Stimulation everywhere. It had the excitement of derivative securities (what I’d hoped to do on the exchange out of college) with the luxury of wearing flip-flops paired best with a lunch cocktail. What a time to be alive… Software was exciting: Ask questions to identify pain points and articulate a solution in a way that addresses their needs. Come in early and leave late, simple enough. Rinse, wash, repeat. I digress. When I say we were the fastest growing start-up in Atlanta, I need to provide a little perspective. We were onboarding in the range of 15 – 20 people a week. Incredible growth. Every week one of the guys I worked with would ask if I wanted to go with him to walk past the onboarding room to see if there were any attractive girls we should speak with and every week I would pass on the opportunity. I was a single guy at the time but not entirely bought in to the idea of dating at work. Not that there is anything wrong with it. I just looked at is as I was there for one primary function. Make as much money as you can. Let me be the first to tell you how quickly life changes. One week when asked, I decided to take a walk with one of the guys in my division past the onboarding room when I saw her for the first time. She was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. I was nervous. So I did what anyone would do in my situation and walked in to introduce myself. Said hello to the new hire trainer and pulled up a chair next to Mireille splitting the small crowd of guys conveniently sitting all around her. I introduced myself and said: “Hi, my name is Robert. What’s your name? She replied, “Mireille” and paid me no attention. Clearly she had dealt with this before. Noticing they were conducting a practice exam as a part of their new hire training. I replied “You look perplexed.” Wait, what?!?! What the hell was I thinking.

 

Mireille’s Perspective

I had just come back from North Carolina and before that, NYC, where I had fled in the midst of my quarter life crisis and well deserved karma. I was in a long relationship for most of my youth, where it was me that was the problem. I needed more… Of what, I was never sure, but I tried to force it for so many years. I tried to control the direction of my life because I wanted happily ever after so badly. I needed to control my life because of what my parents divorce did to me, that I forced everything and didn’t just let things be. That’s a whole other blog haha, and it made me exactly who I am, but my point is that I was so consumed with it that I forgot to be who I truly was.
So when Robert came around, I decided I would let things just happen, something I had never done before. I wasn’t going to plan out our first anything. Our wedding colors, where we would live…. I didn’t even think that far ahead anymore. I had been doing that my entire life and it blew up in my face because it doesn’t work that way. And in my case, thank goodness.
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It was January 2013 and I was enjoying being single for the first time in my 29 years of life, and not even looking for anyone. I took a software sales job to just have something to come back to Atlanta. Robert was laughing then and he still laughs now at my lack of software understanding. A friend from college told me to come work for his company, and that I would easily get in because it’s software and I’m a girl. It was a young exciting company and I was excited to not be in retail. I had all my outfits planned out because (doesn’t everyone?) and I figured the job understanding would come later…. or someone willing to tell me everything. Fortunately I got a little bit of both, but that story will come later. Training was fun and overwhelming, but I didn’t have to sell anything yet so I was doing just fine. On the third day of work, they brought in a few of the seasoned guys to help us with a quiz. Basically to show off at what they knew and establish who they were… I was not new to this ego game. All the guys were the same and I just rolled my eyes inside. As I was trying to fill out some of the answers, a guy sat down next to me. I was concentrating really hard and trying to grasp what in the world I was trying to learn. I looked up and the first thing that I noticed was his eyes. They seemed genuine and looked at me in a way no one had ever looked at me, I am not even kidding. Then he said, “you look perplexed’….

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7 comments

  1. Oh my gosh! This is such a great idea (& exercise for couples)!!! So easy to see things from your perspective, but there is so much more to the story.

    Don’t stop, okie? I love reading your story!

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